So can we age with grace? That is up to us! Just recently, I realized my mind is still the same but my physical appearance doesn’t match anymore. Reality has sunk in.

Although I actually I think I did know that. But I did not want to really know that, if you know what I mean. Sometimes denial can be a good coping mechanism but I have learned not really when it comes to the aging process. And it is a process.

I have some strong thoughts about how older people are seen by society in general. We’re seen as sheep, not as individuals. Advertisers in particular don’t see our individuality. I get ads suggesting how people over 50 should dress Really? Ive been dressing myself all my life and have my own style, thank you. Why not have the same campaign for people younger than 50? They also try to advertise appropriate hairstyles for older women. There is no one hairstyle or clothes that fit all, nor should there be.

The one that I see that is almost mean is advice on “how to look 10 years younger.” First of all whey would I want to? Whats wrong with looking our age or having wrinkles? We can still wear make up or have our hair done or highlighted if we choose to. There is no age limit on looking how we chose to.

Other ads show elderly people looking unkempt, grumpy, critical and hard to get along with. Much like some people in the younger generations who don’t get those kind of ads aimed at them. It seems to me society in general has become all about how you look, how much you weigh, and what designer items you have.

To me its about what kind of a person we are and how we support our communities and those less well off than ourselves. That matters. Are we kind to others? Do we engage in important conversations that affect all people and positive change? Do we listen to other points of view and differences and not judge? Are we able to compromise?

Do we make a difference? Maybe its time to take a minute and look at our priorities and refresh.

It has taken me quite a long time to realize I was reliving my past instead of living in the moment. I would think about all the things I could no longer do or be. No more horses. No biking or hiking. No more endless energy.

Traveling now, I’m a lot slower than I used to be. I have have some physical issues. I tire more easily. I guess that’s all to be expected as part of the aging process. However I have learned to accept and adjust. Instead of having 20 goals a day I now have a lot fewer. Do I always get them done? Of course not. And that’s ok.

I have learned its ok to get up and enjoy the morning. It’s hard for me not to rush off to do something or stay up late. Or not cook a nice meal every night.

All that has taken time. Baby steps. I can walk and enjoy Central Oregon’s beauty. The clouds and sky are beautiful and peaceful. The trees, birds and deer are a part of nature I love and enjoy. I can have coffee or lunch with friends. I can take my time. I can volunteer — there are lots of needs for that. I can take a class online or learn about something that interests me. I’m trying to improve my Spanish. There are lots of pottery and art classes. There are art walks and food trucks to explore. Going to the grocery store or other shopping is enjoyable because we can take our time.

Finally, let’s be unapologetically ourselves. Let us be individuals, and show respect to other lifestyles and choices. Be kind to ourselves and others. And let’s not let society suggest how we should dress or look. Its an honor to be older. Im able to see my children thrive and see their children thrive. And I can enjoy the freedom aging has given me. We are a relevant group. Don’t think otherwise. Take pride in your accomplishments. Above all, take care of yourself.