I first want to clarify the difference between mental illness and mental health. Mental illness is just that: An illness diagnosed by a psychiatrist or other qualified practitioner. Mental health is just that: Keeping our emotional psychological and social wellbeing in check. How we handle stress is a very big factor. Does mental illness affect mental health? Of course, as does many other illnesses.

During the holiday season we are so busy shopping, planning dinners, family get-togethers and volunteering. And we also have the opportunity to join in all the fun activities our community has to offer. Missing loved ones and friends can take center stage as well.

Sometimes just being out of our routine and managing daily obligations can be a lot. You can see how mental health can be challenging to manage over the holidays.

Lets talk about some ideas to help us with coping skills during this season and going forward. Oftentimes, after the holidays are over, there can be a “letdown.” Having a plan in place is a good way to have a less stressful mental health life. That can be your gift to yourself.

On to some coping skills finally! The most important one is to not take on more than you can actually manage. Make lists and keep a calendar to stay organized. And, yes, its sometimes hard to say no. The reality is that we all have limitations with our time commitments. Sleep is a priority. Every day plan to take a “timeout” for yourself. A short walk. A few stretching exercises. A power nap. Deep breathing is great, because it gets more oxygen into the brain to reset, as I call it.

Whatever works for you. Involve your family, partner or friends in helping with holiday planning, wrapping presents, making meals, etc. There is no shame in asking for help.

Now and going forward, to keep good mental health, self care is important. Physical activity does not need to be complicated. A simple walk. Yoga or pilates you can do at home on your own schedule. Standing up and stretching to get the blood flowing in your body. Swimming or playing a sport you like. Going to the gym.

Manicures and pedicures. Maybe a massage? It’s a great way to be pampered and relax. Set goals to keep focused on your priorities and keep yourself centered.

Sleep is always a priority. Social time face-to-face with people you enjoy. A coffee group or book club are great ways to get that social interaction, and you can plan ahead for those. Do you like gardening? Make an herb garden you can have inside. I do mine in paper cups. It’s ok to love yourself!

There is always a need for volunteers for the homeless in Redmond. Giving with your time costs nothing. If you knit scarves and hats, they are a great way to help the homeless community. Unfortunately, I simply cannot sew. I scotch tape hems that ravel! And I almost failed Home Ec. in school!

I wish you all a safe season and great mental health.

One last thing as usual: Please do not drink and drive. Alcohol disinhibits behavior and good decisions. There are many options to safely get where you are going.